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Cytherea in 2005

Bill Margold’s Cold, Dead Fingers on My Relationship

May 2, 2019 Gram the Man 6

One’s porn CV can be a terrible weapon of mercy.

Amber Rayne

Unsung Starlet: Miss You, Amber Rayne

April 6, 2016 Gram the Man 6

Beng a porn star was only part of who Amber Rayne was, but let’s not forget that, either.

Candida Royalle, photo by Danny Nicoletta

Remembering Candida Royalle

September 8, 2015 Gram the Man 0

Candida Royalle wore many hats, had many cats.

Peter O’Toole’s Porn Valley Contributions

December 16, 2013 Gram the Man 1

Peter O’Toole cast quite a shadow over Porn Valley.

Carlos Batts Remembered by Hundreds in a Weekend of L.A. Memorials

November 10, 2013 Gram the Man 0

“Live life to the fullest, without fear or regret.”

Carlos Batts: A Memorial And Gallery

October 28, 2013 Gram the Man 0

Carlos Batts and April Flores were like an interracial porno-fabulous Andrew Wyeth and Helga.

At home with April Flores and Carlos Batts

October 23, 2013 Gram the Man 5

“She’s very considerate,” Batts said. “Before we go out, she asks me if I want her to smell like marshmallows or cherries.”

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So Long, Harry: Harry Reems dies at 65

March 21, 2013 Gram the Man 2

Hair-carpeted and randy, Reems could have been the face of the carefree 70’s

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Remembering Hollie Stevens on her own terms

September 1, 2012 Gram the Man 3

Hollie Stevens is remembered at a not-at-all-uncharacteristic-of-Hollie-Stevens gathering at Hyaena Gallery

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So Long, Hollie Stevens

July 5, 2012 Gram the Man 12

The wonderful Hollie Stevens succumbed to breast cancer July 2. She was 30.

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Sledge Hammer’s memorial was just how he would have liked it

April 23, 2012 Gram the Man 1

Dozens of friends and colleagues of Marland “Sledge Hammer” Anderson mingled and reminisced at the late performer’s memorial service in Woodland Hills yesterday.

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Den of Iniquity: Legendary porn reviewer dies

June 18, 2011 Gram the Man 3

Den was a true believer and a statistician the way an avid baseball fan is.

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Alternate universe XRCO Awards deemed “elegant”

April 15, 2011 Gram the Man 0

Gram wonders what the plane fare might be to the type of place in which the XRCO Awards were actually “elegant”

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John Leslie flags the train

December 9, 2010 Gram the Man 2

John Leslie, who died unexpectedly December 5, was too young to go. But he lived an intriguing life full of fellow travelers.

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Ronnie James Dio: The Elf that Roared

May 17, 2010 Gram the Man 4

To love Ronnie James Dio is to be able to love a lot of things that at first may seem irreconcilable. It is the best kind of slippery slope.

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Whatever works: Goodbye, Jamie Gillis

February 22, 2010 Gram the Man 3

Jamie Gillis, an actor whose eccentric and devious performances made porn seem like performance art, died February 19. He was 66.

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David Aaron Clark sent off in non-porny fashion

December 21, 2009 Gram the Man 0

DAC also would have enjoyed having his ashes scattered on someone’s face

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Into the Realm with David Aaron Clark

November 29, 2009 Gram the Man 4

DAC would relish the chance to come back as a vengeful Japanese ghost

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Don’t you forget about John Hughes

August 6, 2009 Gram the Man 1

Others may feel differently, but this was the most shocking thing I ever saw in a movie aimed at my then demographic: Molly Ringwald’s stunt […]

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Richard de Montfort’s Last Sitting

July 28, 2009 Gram the Man 3

Richard de Montfort, who died earlier this month, directed Scarlett Fay as Lindsay Lohan impersonating Marilyn Monroe in a recreation of Monroe’s 1962 “Last Sitting” […]

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