Kiki D’aire, Kami Andrews, and Anastasia Blue are three former porn performers (one of whom allegedly is returning and two of whom I’ve met) who have large and eclectic fan bases that are different from those of the standard-issue porn star. They also have ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands (and, in one case, ex-families) who will take every opportunity to trash them.
In recent months I have received anonymous e-mails and comments from people telling me everything from these performers’ real names, addresses, and telephone numbers to how much their escorting fee is and how much they’ve let themselves go. I delete as many of these comments as I can. No offense to any other website or publication, but I have neither the time nor inclination to air your grievances.
According to the women themselves, each of whom has contacted me, they are getting on with their lives and have guarded words about the people who are putting them down anonymously, all of whom share certain identifiable characteristics with exes.
However invested a porn star is in his or her fan community, she is performing a job that ends when she quits, and she has a right to privacy and, at the least, the right to defend herself in person. I would no sooner print an anonymous tip about Kiki D’aire as I would about Tom Cruise (a little bird told me they are the same person – ZING!) and the fact that their detractors want to attack them in such a personal manner leads me to an issue I have with some porn fans.
Public bulletin boards and website comment sections are not the place for personal attacks, especially anonymous ones. And the woman you pay to jerk you off, whether she is on a screen or in your hotel room, is a temporary employee and not a substitute for every woman who has ever turned you down.
To paraphrase Mika Tan, porn performers are whores, not sluts. You pay them and they perform a service, in the same way that you pay me and I file nuisance lawsuits at the courthouse. And if you encounter them in an outcall situation, you do not own them and, despite literature to the contrary, being a ‘monger does not make you cool.
As always, the only reliable metric of coolness is the amount of sex one gets for free (without being Uday Hussein).
UPDATE: A commenter said today that Anastasia Blue died on July 19 from an overdose of Tylenol. I have yet to verify this. If anyone has reliable information please share it with me.
Previously: Where have you gone, Kiki D’aire?; Anastasia Blue, where are you?; Kami Andrews leaves porn, having never been to me; Mika Tan Fights for America, Whores, and the Right to Film Sex with Asian Men
See also: Kiki D’aire on MySpace, Kami Andrews on IAFD, Anastasia Blue on IAFD
Kiki IS back. She’s in town now, setting herself up with (I believe) Type 9 Models. She stayed with David Lord for a few days and has now relocated into digs her new agent got for her.
FWIW
Kiki D’Aire was married, I know you’ve met Kami Andrews, and Anastasia Blue may be dead…I was going to treat this like one of those games where you have to identify everyone at the table when you only know that the seating chart has Suzie next to the accountant, James is a redhead, all the minorities are on one side of the table, and no two Mennonites are seated next to each other, but then Eli blew the gaff. Way to spoil the puzzle for everyone else, Eli. Thanks a lot.
I guess I will just console myself with the knowledge that Kiki D’Aire is back. Our long national nightmare is over.
Great post, Gram.
You rock. Kiki rocks.
Nice to see her back.
Tim and Felicia Fox
kiki was not married and why don’t you ask her how many lives she tried to destroy in her quest with a married man. she has been arrested twice and that is fact. she is a horrible human being if you can if fact call her a human being.